~ Dialog ~ Topic 17 ~ Meeting People ~ Choose the questions you like ~
1) Do you enjoy meeting new people? How often do you meet new people? Who are they?
No. I¡¯m terrified. I always try to make a welcome face but meeting people scares me.
I seldom meet new friends, but if old friends introduce someone, I feel less stress.
2) What would you talk about with someone you first met? What wouldn't you talk about?
Circumstances are important. If we are at a supermarket, I suppose we¡¯d talk about food
and not politics. Yet, at a political rally, we¡¯d probably talk politics¡¦ and where to eat.
3) Who was your first best friend? How did you meet? What did you talk about?
My first best friend lived just across the street. We were in elementary school.
If I wasn¡¯t home for dinner, I would probably at my friend¡¯s home. And vice versa.
4) Are first impressions important? Do you always judge people on first impressions?
Obviously. Criminals are often odd-looking. But what if the person is having a bad day?
I think humans have instincts that can understand unspoken things. But it¡¯s never 100%.
5) Have you ever experienced being completely wrong in your first impression?
Yes. I came across an old woman pulling a cart. Many people ignored her. But, as I
slowly learned, she helped her neighbors and gave us her extra vegetables and kindness.
6) Have you ever met someone online? Who? How? Why? Are you still in contact?
Yes. I often meet people online. I don¡¯t want to visit them or marry them. It¡¯s just
¡®the modern ritual¡¯. We can now meet people online we would never otherwise meet.
7) Who was the last new person you met, and where did you meet them?
We just met a couple. They are from New Zealand. They were on holiday and we had
a few meals with them. We had a good time, and we¡¯ll keep in touch on social media.
8) Describe parties in your country? What occasions? Can you meet new people there?
Food. Parties here begin and end with food. In between, there is drinking. Birthday
parties here are usually with the immediate family. Company parties are common.
9) Is it difficult to meet a girlfriend or boyfriend in your country? If so, why?
I think it has always been difficult to find a romantic match that lasts. I guess that¡¯s
why there are so many divorces. I suppose the internet offers more possibilities.
10) If you were looking for a good friend, where could you meet people in your community?
There are lots of online sites where you could find people in your area, but the better
way to meet friends is to join a group that shares your same interests (chess, sports, etc.)
More questions/Free Talk ~ the original 25 questions ~
~ Topic 17 ~ Meeting People ~ food for ThOuGhT ~ Internet ~
Everybody knows that first impressions count. If you¡¯d like to take the initiative to make new friends but don¡¯t want to come off as creepy, then it's important to find a balance between showing interest and not coming off as too eager -- or even desperate.
When you approach a new person, don't ask yourself, "How do I look?" or "How do I sound?" Instead, ask, "What would this person like to talk about?" "What matters to this person?"
You can keep the momentum going by being one step ahead of the person you're talking to by thinking about what to say next, instead of falling behind and obsessing over something you said or did five minutes ago that might have come off the wrong way.
If you really click with someone you meet, don't be too quick to say, "I like you!" or "You're really awesome!" unless you're getting a really positive vibe from the other person.
Whether you're meeting a potential friend or romantic partner, don't ask for the person's number in the middle of the conversation or as soon as you think you click. Instead, wait until the end to ask -- it's a more natural time to ask.
If you meet someone who you think will be a great friend, you can casually say, "We should check out that new movie together," or "I'd love to check out that yoga class you're talking about" -- don't invite the person to do anything too intense at first. Don't ask the person to go out on a long hike with you, go to a family dinner with you, or to help you go underwear shopping. Keep it casual at first, or you'll look too eager.
Avoid sounding creepy or desperate by not saying things like, "I don't have many friends -- it would be great to hang out."
Body language can help you stay confident. Stand tall, maintain eye contact, and don't fidget with your hands or look at the floor.
Don't check your reflection in your mirror or in reflective surfaces, or people will see that you're doubting yourself.
~ Print Textbook ~ Topics 13 through 24 ~
~ Lesson Procedures ~
1) To begin with, as a class, in groups or in pairs study and talk about sections one and two.
2) Then, select the questions you¡¯d like to talk about from section one or from more questions.
3) After that, share your ideas in your conversations. Take equal turns.
4) Finally, make your own questions and create discussion.
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