~ Dialogue ~ Topic 3 ~ Friends and Friendship ~ Discuss Questions and Answers ~
1)Describe one of your closest friends. How often do you meet? What do you do?
One of my best friends lives down the street from me in the next apartment complex.
We go out for coffee three or four times a week. Other times, our families get together.
2) Do you have any long distance friends? How and how often do you communicate?
Yes. I have one good friend who lives in Canada. In fact, we grew up together, but she
married a Canadian guy and emigrated to Toronto. We use Facebook and send texts.
3) Do you ever borrow money from or lend money to a friend? Why or why not?
Yes. That’s never a problem… but don’t expect you’ll get your money back, and try
to keep up your end of the deal… In other words, do your best. Don’t lend too much.
4) Do you prefer having many friends or a few close friends? Explain.
I prefer a few close friends. The reason is that I like sharing company in small groups.
The fact is, I feel uncomfortable in big group settings… Noisy groups act like mobs…
5) How do you make new friends? Do you make friends easily?
There is no “HOW TO…” when it comes to friends. Yet, anytime you do what you really like,
there may, quite possibly, be a friend doing the same thing in your vicinity.
6) What are the qualities of being a good friend? How do you maintain a good friendship?
Honesty is the first on the list… then listening, compassion, understanding, patience…
Just the best aspects of human nature. And also being available in hard times.
7) Are friendships between boys and girls/men and women common in your country?
Yes and No. We are a Muslim country, so not a lot of contact is allowed. Yet, this
situation leads to many poetic and secret exchanges. It’s dangerous but intense.
8) Do you think it is possible to be friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend? Explain.
Not the best idea if you are married or if you are having a serious relationship. Jealousy
is the most common cause of break-ups. You could call it the Othello Syndrome.
9) What are some ways your friends have influenced you in a positive/negative way?
Positive: Just overall good energy and living well by example. Negative: That means
people looking out ONLY for themselves with a bad influence. In the end, Love rules.
10) Do you have a close group of friends? What do you have in common? What do you do?
No. I don’t take to large groups. I prefer hanging out with just a few friends at a time.
Yet, I belong to a church with a large congregation. I go every Sunday. It helps me.
~ Original Questions ~ Friends and Friendship ~ Choose the questions you like ~
1) Describe one of your closest friends.
2) Do you have any childhood friendships that remain today? Tell us about them.
3) Do you have any long distance friends? How and how often do you communicate?
4) Do you think it is a good idea to borrow money from a friend? Why or why not?
5) Do you prefer having many friends or a few close friends?
1) Have you ever made any friends on the Internet? Have you ever met them in person?
2) How do you make new friends? Do you make friends easily? Why or why not?
3) There is a saying "To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend." Is this true?
4) What qualities do good friends have? How do you maintain a good friendship?
5) What kind of things do you and your friends do together?
1) Is it common to have friendships across generations in your country?
2) What are the advantages and disadvantages of these types of friendships.
3) Are friendships between boys and girls or men and women common in your country?
4) If such relationships are not common (or even taboo) what are the reasons?
5) What are the advantages and disadvantages of male/female friendships.
1) Do you think it is possible to be friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
2) Where is a good place to meet new friends/a boyfriend/a girlfriend?
3) Do you believe your parents should be your friends? Why or why not?
4) There is a proverb that says, "A friend in need is a friend indeed." Do you agree?
5) What are some ways your friends have influenced you in a positive/negative way?
1) What factors may result in the breakdown of a good friendship?
2) What do you do if you receive a friend's call but you forgot his/her name?
3) What does the saying "Hold your friends close, but hold your enemies closer" mean?
4) What do you do when you have a misunderstanding with your friend?
5) Do you have a close group of friends? What qualities do you have in common?
~ Food for Thought ~ Topic 3 ~ Friends and Friendship ~ Explore the Topic ~
Friendship: Although there are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place to place, certain characteristics are present in many types of such bonds. Such characteristics include affection, kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, generosity, forgiveness, mutual understanding, compassion, enjoyment of each other's company, trust, the encouragement to be oneself, the ease of expressing one's feelings, and possibility to make mistakes without fear of judgment.
As children mature, they become less individualized and are more aware of others. They gain the ability to empathize with their friends and enjoy playing in groups. They also experience peer rejection as they move through the middle childhood years. Establishing good friendships at a young age helps a child to be better acclimated in society later on in their life.
Based upon the reports of teachers and mothers, 75% of preschool children had at least one friend. About 15% of children were found to be chronically friendless reporting periods without mutual friends of at least six months.
The majority of adults have an average of two close friends. Numerous studies with adults suggest that friendships and other supportive relationships enhance self-esteem.
“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”
“Tis the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense and to have her nonsense respected.”
“If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.”
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”
“Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success.”
Lesson Procedures/How to make a lesson
1) To begin, as a class, in groups, or in pairs, select the questions you’d like to talk about.
2) Then, ask questions and share ideas in your conversations. Take notes. Take equal turns.
3) Share your ideas (each individual) in a classroom discussion (as prepared in 1, 2, and 3).
There are three sections for each topic:
1) Dialogue: There are ten selected questions presented with sample answers.
The sample answers are given to assist the learners in creating
their own answers. They tend to use a casual speaking style.
2) Original Questions: There are five groups of five questions with no answers.
They are introduced to give more choices to learners.
3) Food for Thought: Definitions, ideas, and links are offered for discussion and deliberation.
Explore the possibilities. Use the web. Make your own questions. Take equal turns.
~ Topic 3 ~ Friends and Friendship ~ Questions for Conversation ~
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Through this learning, more mistakes will be made…
Through this process, mistakes are no longer mistakes…
They become the act of learning.”
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