~ Dialogue ~ Topic 10 ~ Dating, Marriage, and Love ~ Discuss Questions and Answers ~
1) Tell about your first love, first date, first relationship, or a one-sided romance.
Well… It was kind of like that song, “Norwegian Wood”… short and sweet.
That was my first date. We were both in 7th grade. I asked her out. We went to a movie,
ate popcorn, talked nonsense, and went home. That relationship lasted a few months.
2) How many people in your country participate in social media dating? Who are they?
Many. I can see them meeting in public places. It’s pretty obvious. When they are
texting and looking around, they are very nervous. Then, when they finally meet, they
look like strangers to one another or just friends. I suppose it’s exciting.
3) How did your parents meet? What did they do? If you don't know, why not?
I don’t know for sure. They said they met in elementary school, but they got
married in their twenties. That would seem to be a very long courtship.
4) Have you ever gotten advice from either parent about dating? Did it help?
Yes. My dad always said to focus on academics and not to focus on women.
My mom always said not to listen to my dad. It was confusing to say the least.
5) Do you think marriage is necessary? Explain. Is there an alternative?
Marriage is only necessary if YOU think so. Not to be callous, but the whole
ritual of marriage seems to me to be a waste of time, emotional effort, and money.
6) Do all couples need to have children to have a happy marriage? Explain.
Most couples need children. It’s probably genetic. When couples raise children
they become closer emotionally and share a greater amount of responsibility.
7) What are the benefits and disadvantages of international marriage in your country?
Well… People sometimes marry for citizenship. On the other hand, they may be in love.
The benefits are cultural awareness, though that could lead to family conflict or worse.
8) Is divorce in your country prevalent? For what reasons? What problems are created?
Yes. People divorce often. The main reason is that the children have become independent
and the couple no longer wants to live together. They often stay together until this time.
9) Do you believe that true love/the idea of soul mates is possible? What is a kindred spirit?
Absolutely. If you don’t believe this, you are depriving yourself of one of life’s greatest gifts.
Different from a soul mate, kindred spirits are close friends connected in a spiritual way.
10) Have you ever had a heartbreak? How bad was it? Do you still think about it?
Yes. It was in middle school. The pain was severe. How can pain like that come from
emotion? It’s strange. There is no science to it. But I got over it after a few months.
~ Original Questions ~ Dating, Marriage, and Love ~ Choose the questions you like ~
1) Describe the character and appearance of someone you would like to date.
2) Tell about your first love, first date, first relationship, or a one-sided romance.
3) Have you ever been on a blind date? Would you ever consider it? Why or why not?
4) How many people in your country participate in social media dating? Who are they?
5) Have you or would meet someone you chatted with online? Why or why not?
1) Would you ever date someone much younger or older than you? Explain.
2) How did your parents meet? What did they do? If you don't know, why not?
3) Why are some parents reluctant to talk about their dating experiences?
4) Do/Did your parents have a happy marriage? How do you know?
5) Have you ever gotten advice from either parent about dating? Did it help?
1) Do you think marriage is necessary? Explain. Is there an alternative?
2) Do all couples need to have children to have a happy marriage? Explain.
3) What are the benefits and disadvantages of having children? Explain.
4) Do people in your country disapprove of men and women living together? Why?
5) Did (would) you live with your husband/wife before you got married? If so, how was it?
1) Would you marry someone from another ethnic or religious group? Why or why not?
2) Are there marriages between different nationalities in your country? What are they?
3) What are the benefits and disadvantages of international marriage in your country?
4) Do you know anything about the history of marriage in your country. Explain.
5) Is divorce in your country prevalent? For what reasons? What problems are created?
1) Do you believe that true love or the idea of soul mates is possible? Why or why not?
2) Do you think there are different kinds of love? If so, explain. If not, explain.
3) Where does love come from? How long ago do you think humans were aware of love?
4) How would you explain romantic love? How long do you think it has existed?
5) Have you ever had a heartbreak? How bad was it? Do you still think about it?
~ Food for Thought ~ Topic 10 ~ Dating and Marriage ~ Explore the Topic ~
Animals that Mate for a Lifetime
Ancient Greek philosophers identified seven forms of love:
1) Eros: Love of the body
2) Philia: Love of the mind
3) Ludus: Playful love
4) Pragma: Longstanding love
5) Agape: Love of the soul
6) Philautia: Love of the self
7) Storge: Love of the child/family
Other Possible Forms of Love:
8) Mutual Love
10) Obsessive Love
11) Patriotic Love
Task: Compare and contrast the various forms of love.
Lesson Procedures/How to make a lesson
1) To begin, as a class, in groups, or in pairs, select the questions you’d like to talk about.
2) Then, ask questions and share ideas in your conversations. Take notes. Take equal turns.
3) Share your ideas (each individual) in a classroom discussion (as prepared in 1, 2, and 3).
There are three sections for each topic:
1) Dialogue: There are ten selected questions presented with sample answers.
The sample answers are given to assist the learners in creating
their own answers. They tend to use a casual speaking style.
2) Original Questions: There are five groups of five questions with no answers.
They are introduced to give more choices to learners.
3) Food for Thought: Definitions, ideas, and links are offered for discussion and deliberation.
Explore the possibilities. Use the web. Make your own questions. Take equal turns.
~ Topic 10 ~ Dating and Marriage ~ Questions for Conversation ~
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