Part Two: Twelve Forms of Love


Ancient Greek philosophers identified seven forms of love:


1) Eros: Love of the body

2) Philia: Love of the mind

3) Ludus: Playful love

4) Pragma: Longstanding love

5) Agape: Love of the soul

6) Philautia: Love of the self

7) Storge: Love of the child/family


Other possible forms of love from our times


8) Mutual Love

9) Unrequited or One-sided Love

10) Obsessive Love

11) Patriotic Love

12) Idol Love/Idolatry


1) Do you think "love" can be divided into such categories? Explain.




2) In what case is "longstanding love" possible? Tell.




3) Why is the bond between family members so strong? Your story?




4) Are arranged marriages more successful than romantic? Explain.




5) Can "Patriotic love" be a positive idea in the global world? Elaborate.




6) Have you ever had a "lost love" experience (like Doctor Zhivago… movie)?




7) Why do young people idolize musicians (Beetles, BTS, various singers)?



~ Part Three: Topic 2 ~


1) Tell about your first love, first date, first relationship, or a one-sided romance.

Well… It was kind of like that song, “Norwegian Wood”… short and sweet.

That was my first date. We were both in 7th grade. I asked her out. We went to a movie,

ate popcorn, talked nonsense, and went home. That relationship lasted a few months.


2) How many people in your country participate in social media dating? Who are they?

Many. I can see them meeting in public places. It’s pretty obvious. When they are

texting and looking around, they are very nervous. Then, when they finally meet, they

look like strangers to one another or just friends. I suppose it’s exciting.


3) How did your parents meet? What did they do? If you don't know, why not?

I don’t know for sure. They said they met in elementary school, but they got

married in their twenties. That would seem to be a very long courtship.


4) Have you ever gotten advice from either parent about dating? Did it help?

Yes. My dad always said to focus on academics and not to focus on women.

My mom always said not to listen to my dad. It was confusing to say the least.


5) Do you think marriage is necessary? Explain. Is there an alternative?

Marriage is only necessary if YOU think so. Not to be callous, but the whole

ritual of marriage seems to me to be a waste of time, emotional effort, and money.


6) Do all couples need to have children to have a happy marriage? Explain.

Most couples need children. It’s probably genetic. When couples raise children

they become closer emotionally and share a greater amount of responsibility.


7) What are the benefits and disadvantages of international marriage in your country?

Well… People sometimes marry for citizenship. On the other hand, they may be in love.

The benefits are cultural awareness, though that could lead to family conflict or worse.


8) Is divorce in your country prevalent? For what reasons? What problems are created?

Yes. People divorce often. The main reason is that the children have become independent

and the couple no longer wants to live together. They often stay together until this time.


9) Do you believe that true love/the idea of soul mates is possible? What is a kindred spirit?

Absolutely. If you don’t believe this, you are depriving yourself of one of life’s greatest gifts.

Different from a soul mate, kindred spirits are close friends connected in a spiritual way.


10) Have you ever had a heartbreak? How bad was it? Do you still think about it?

Yes. It was in middle school. The pain was severe. How can pain like that come from

emotion? It’s strange. There is no science to it. But I got over it after a few months.



~ Food for Thought ~ Topic 10 ~ Dating and Marriage ~ Explore the Topic ~


















Animals that Mate for a Lifetime





~ Topic 2-2 ~ Dating and Marriage ~ Questions for Conversation ~

Honor your mistakes, they will lead to learning...

Through this learning, more mistakes will be made…

Through this process, mistakes are no longer mistakes…

They become the act of learning.





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Lesson Procedures/Suggestions for Lessons


Part One: Diary ~ Write in your book or manage in your mind ~


Prepare for each class with a Diary ~ Thoughts, Notes, Stories… as you like ~

Think about or Write a memory from your (recent) past, about your daily routines, or about your future...

Any idea or any time… It could be about your family, friends, a song, a meal, a movie, a painful experience, a fun event, a book, internet content, childhood, future goals, news, social issues, etc.

Then present it at the beginning of class.


Part Two: Discuss a Topic


1) Read the passage as a class. Teacher first. Taking turns with sentences. Or any other method.

2) As a class, in groups, or in pairs, discuss the questions. Take equal turns. Encourage others. 

3) Ask questions and share ideas in conversation. Make and Give opinions. Be positive but critical.


Part Three: Dialogue Discussion


1) There are ten questions with sample answers. Sample answers are given as models.

2) As a class, in groups, or in pairs, select the questions youd like to talk about. 

3) Ask questions and share ideas in conversation. Take notes. Take equal turns.


Explore the possibilities. Use the web. Make your own questions. Take equal turns.