~ Dialogue ~ Topic 13 ~ Manners in Society ~ Discuss Questions and Answers ~
1) What are some good/bad manners for using phones on public transport?
Using phones on buses with the speaker/audio on is unacceptable. Some people
talk loudly on their phones in subways and others play games without earphones.
2) What are some good/bad table manners? party manners on a night out?
The worst is when someone talks too loud and too much. Smoking is bad. Using
phones at the table kills the conversation. Of course, drunks can ruin a party.
3) What are some good/bad manners relating to hygiene? At restrooms or a spa?
Flush the ceramic chair when you finish. Wash your hands. Let others go first.
Don’t brush your teeth in a public restroom. Take a shower after your sauna.
4) What are some good/bad driving manners? Talk about your experiences.
I think window tinting is a problem. The tinting gives drivers a false sense
of protection. They don’t regard pedestrians well. Also, mad people on motorbikes.
5) What are some good/bad manners related to drinking alcohol/smoking in public?
Obviously, the excessive use of alcohol is wrong for so many reasons. On the other
hand, moderate use makes good conversation. Second hand smoke is an insult.
6) What's the best way to teach good manners to children? Explain.
No one knows the perfect way. But maybe teach your children in the way that will
show them kindness while being open to knowledge and… if you hit, they will too.
7) What advice would you give a foreigner visiting your country about manners?
“When in Rome, do as the Romans” is a false cliché. Be yourself, but be aware
of the basic common manners. Such as, take off your shoes, don’t burp, etc.
8) Do you know of any manners that are based on gender? What are they?
Well, opening doors for women, children and old folks used to be expected
from men but nowadays, women prefer to do tasks for themselves. I get it.
9) What kind of language/speaking style do you consider rude? Explain.
Talking behind someone’s back (making rumors) is definitely rude, but
using foul speech in public (cursing, swearing, slandering) is also unacceptable.
10) Why do you think people stare (gawk)? What social manners are not OK?
People seem to be interested in “the other” or “that which looks different”.
Curiosity is healthy, but gawking is awkward and reveals one’s social ignorance.
~ Original Questions ~ Manners in Society ~ Choose the questions you like ~
1) What are some good/bad manners for using a smart/cell phone? On social media/internet?
2) What are some good/bad table manners? party manners? With friends on a night out?
3) What are some good/bad manners relating to hygiene? At a spa? At public restrooms?
4) What are some good/bad driving manners? Talk about how drivers and pedestrians interact.
5) What are some good/bad manners related to drinking alcohol and/or smoking in public places?
1) Is showing affection such as kissing in public appropriate? Why or why not?
2) Is it appropriate to hug or kiss when greeting someone in your country?
3) Is listening to other's people conversations (eavesdropping) appropriate? Explain.
4) What are some common good manners in your culture that you don't agree with? Explain.
5) Why do we have manners? How do you think they came about? Do they change over time?
1) Do you know any manners that are appropriate in your country but not in others (or vice versa)?
2) Do you think people in your culture have better manners now than in the past? Explain.
3) Do you think your manners can affect your success in life? How? Give examples.
4) What's the best way to teach good manners to children? Do parents in your culture make this effort?
5) Do you think it's possible to be overly polite? Explain. Give an example of being too polite.
1) Would you give a foreigner visiting your country lessons to show good manners? Why or Why not?
2) Do people in your country hold open the door for strangers? Should they?
3) When entering an elevator, train, or bus what manners to people show in your country?
4) Do you think good manners are related to income and social status?
5) Do you think the idea of good manners can inhibit people's sense of fun? Explain.
1) To what extent is the idea of good manners used to control women's behavior in society?
2) Do you know of any manners that are based on gender (man/woman)? What are they?
3) What are some manners in your country that no longer exist? Manners that are new?
4) What kind of language/speaking style do you consider rude? Explain. Give examples.
5) Why do you think people stare (gawk)? Do you think it's OK? How can you stop them?
~ Food for Thought ~ Topic 13 ~ Manners in Society ~ Explore the Topic ~
Have you ever encountered someone who talks so loud that you could hear him/her from another room, or a person who talks with his mouth full, kids that break everything in sight and disturb anyone within a radius of 100 meters, or a neighbor who plays the music so loud that your walls shake?
A person standing next to you in a bus station will spit every now and then in front of you or even worse to the side where you are standing. A person will come to your shop with a lit cigarette in his hand or next to you. They will enter an office and meet the secretary or the person in charge stuck to their phone. While you are trying to be polite and wait until he/she finishes, you will learn that the person is making plans for the weekend with friends or gossiping about other friends.
It’s obvious that some people just don’t care about the public space as a place of common pleasure. Instead, they take the public space as their own. The ignorance is obvious only to those watching.
Hygiene Manners – are any manners which affect disease transmission. They are likely to be taught at an early age, primarily through parental discipline, positive behavioral enforcement of continence with bodily fluids (such as toilet training), and the avoidance or removal of items that pose a disease risk for children.
Courtesy Manners – demonstrate one's ability to put the interests of others before oneself; to display self-control and good intent for the purposes of being trusted in social interactions. Courtesy manners help to maximize the benefits of group living by regulating social interaction.
Cultural Norm Manners – typically demonstrate one's identity within a specific socio-cultural group. Adherence to cultural norm manners allows for the demarcation of socio-cultural identities and the creation of boundaries which inform who is to be trusted or who is to be deemed as ‘other’.
Rules of etiquette encompass most aspects of social interaction in any society, though the term itself is not commonly used. A rule of etiquette may reflect an underlying ethical code, or it may reflect a person's fashion or status. Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten, but aspects of etiquette have been codified from time to time.
Lesson Procedures/How to make a lesson
1) To begin, as a class, in groups, or in pairs, select the questions you’d like to talk about.
2) Then, ask questions and share ideas in your conversations. Take notes. Take equal turns.
3) Share your ideas (each individual) in a classroom discussion (as prepared in 1, 2, and 3).
There are three sections for each topic:
1) Dialogue: There are ten selected questions presented with sample answers.
The sample answers are given to assist the learners in creating
their own answers. They tend to use a casual speaking style.
2) Original Questions: There are five groups of five questions with no answers.
They are introduced to give more choices to learners.
3) Food for Thought: Definitions, ideas, and links are offered for discussion and deliberation.
Explore the possibilities. Use the web. Make your own questions. Take equal turns.
~ Topic 13 ~ Manners in Society ~ Questions for Conversation ~
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